T’ai Chi Ch’uan is about the balancing of opposites. In the T’ai Chi Classics it says, “Wherever there is a left there is also a right; wherever there is a forward there is first a back; and wherever there is an up there is first a down.”

Another way of saying this is that wherever there is a yang there is also a yin. So many times I watch people perform T’ai Chi and I notice that what is missing is that there is no real yin. (Of course, sometimes I see the opposite – no real yang. These are the T’ai Chi people who have misinterpreted the meaning of softness and just become limp… all yin.) Now in most T’ai Chi forms we can find the “yin” moments in the transitions – the motions that link the actual martial techniques and their final positions. In Yang Style, for example, we see the yin in the “shift back then step up T-Step” transitions.

But it’s not enough just to go through the motions of shifting back.  this is a moment of release, withdrawal  and sinking down.  In fact, there are many moments where you actually want to sink really deep into the kwa (watch the T’ai Chi Minute on Rooster Stands on One Leg) before rising up into the next move… then next yang. Too often, I see students perform a shift back motion  without changing their energy or intention.  They’re really just doing a yang in reverse!

OK – by now most of you know me well enough to know that I teach the principle of The Body is a Metaphor: everything you see manifesting on the physical level is almost certainly happening on every other level at the same time – mental, emotional, energetic and Spiritual. We’re faking our yin.  Our lives get so caught up in doing that we ignore the non-doing.  It’s not enough to take a day off — if that day off is filled with errands and visits to friends and household projects.  We need real yin – quiet time to reflect,  meditate and inhabit a quiet inner space.

That inner space – the yin – is the real womb of all action and results.  It is the place of replenishment.  Without real yin we wind up running on empty for a long time, using up our qi instead of conserving it. Earlier this summer, I experienced first-hand how easy it is to lose your yin/yang balance. I was having a loooong week, carrying a larger load of clients than I typically do, and working on two websites.  I did a guest appearance T’ai Chi class, and I’d been preparing for weekend workshop.  My Tuesday, for example, started at 4 am and didn’t end until after midnight.  It had been a go go go week.  I may have sat down a couple of times – in fact I even tried to take a quick nap in my office once.  But I was just going through the motions.  It wasn’t until one Sunday night, when I put my daughter to bed, that she and I just sat and did nothing.  Rocking in the rocking chair, she reached up her little hand and touched my face, and I just listened to her breathe.  I finally found a yin to match my yang.

I had another one of those moments today. I’ve been meditating every day on who I wanted to be in the next 55 years of life (just had that big birthday, you know). But this morning’s meditation was different. I was suddenly seized by an impulse to start writing – and when I was finished, I had written the first chapter of my new book. This is what emerged – and this will be the guiding theme and voice of these blogs from now on.

To my children, Z, P & H:

There will come a time, my Dears, when you will hear a call – a pulling (sometimes a pushing), a yearning, an impulse to go out into the world and “be your own person.” To be sure, you’ll have made short little excursions “out there” before this. Maybe you’ll have gone away to college, or taken a backpacking trip through New Zealand, or had a boyfriend. Each one of those shorter journeys will (hopefully) have taught you something, and strengthened you for the Big Journey to come. This is a journey we all must take; it is our destiny as surely as geese must fly south for the winter and salmon must come back to spawn in the creeks where they were hatched. Human Beings have made this journey since the Dawn of Man, and we’ll be making it until night falls on our species.

I don’t know exactly what your journey will be like. It’s different for each of us – that’s what makes the world simultaneously wondrous and disastrous. As a father, I would do anything to protect you from experiencing the pain and perils that are part of that road. But also as a father, I know that without experiencing your own particular path for yourself, and facing and overcoming each crisis (which is really only a lesson in disguise) by yourself, you will never reach the end of your journey and fulfill your own destiny. And I want that for you more than anything. The best I can do is give you a gift to prepare you and guide you on your journey. You are holding in your hands (on whatever device is being used these days) a guidebook for the road ahead. It is a map, a compass and an outline of the rules of the roads that await you. It contains a methodology for staying true to your path – or finding your way back whenever you lose your way (because that is also a great part of our journey). I call this method, “Invincible Living,” because I want you to remember that nothing can ever destroy who you really are.

As I begin writing this book, I have just passed my 55th birthday. I actually figure I’m at the half-way point; medical science has advanced enough, and I take care of myself enough, that it is highly probable that I could live to be 110. Nice round number, don’t you think? And this should give me plenty of time to finish this book by the time you are ready for it – and maybe even write a revision for my grandchildren! I’ve spent the last 40 years on my own journey. Though I didn’t understand what I was doing at the time, I started early on writing personal journals and saving all the notes about the details of my life’s journey – kind of like making a map as I went. Here are some of the highlights of my journey – just an outline, but I will be filling in the details in the coming chapters, I promise.

First, I became a T’ai Chi teacher. T’ai Chi has been the root of my understanding of our human journey. It has been without question or exaggeration the most useful tool I ever acquired. I hope that by the time you are reading this you have learned a fair amount of T’ai Chi – either from me or one of my students. Of course, as your mother would be quick to point out, not everyone is turned on by T’ai Chi – but there is something for everyone that is a mind/body discipline, that can teach you the universal principles that shape the world in which we live, and can be your physical anchor when your mind and emotions are in turmoil. Maybe it will be dance; maybe it will be surfing. But I am going to do my best to help you learn your own “T’ai Chi.” T’ai Chi taught me that the key that unlocks the door to your destiny is to create, restore or maintain balance and harmony. Remember this, my Dears: when you are in balance, everything works – and works well! And when you are out of balance, everything begins to fall apart. Remember also that every choice or decision you make in life is a step either towards balance (further along the path to your destiny) or towards chaos (the wasteland of those who have lost their way).

I next became a fitness expert – and here I think what I was really learning was how to be a healer. It was quite a natural segue to move from T’ai Chi teacher to fitness trainer. I have a love of teaching, a degree in human movement – and T’ai Chi had already taught me to see the body as a system of energies, synergies and expressive motions. I started with the idea – the question, really: what if we stop looking at the body as something that always had to be fixed or improved? (This is the way conventional fitness usually treats people.) Instead, what if we start looking at every body as being inherently perfect – unique and whole just the way it is? If that were the case, then anything that didn’t “look perfect” to the eye wasn’t broken or flawed – it was just masked or concealed.

This is perhaps the most important piece of my philosophy – the heart of Invincible Living – but it has also been one of the most controversial parts. Our world is full of judgment, and even our economy runs on the idea that we should try to fix all the imperfections in ourselves and our surroundings. But I don’t look at the world like that – and you don’t have to either. To be Invincible is to learn not to be fooled by appearances. For example, whenever I look at you, my Dears, I know in my heart that you are each the most perfect child ever born on the planet. No matter what you look like (and with the exception of Z, you kids went through a long bald stage), no matter whether you are sick, hurt, whining, screaming, crying, being defiant, hitting each other, talking back or having a multiple personalities moment –  I know that deep inside where it really matters you are still that beautiful, perfect little person you were when you were born. That’s the way I always see you, and that will NEVER change for me. And so here’s the thing – every person you will ever meet was somebody’s child once, somebody’s perfect, beautiful little baby. Anything you see in others that doesn’t “look perfect” doesn’t have to mean that they are broken or flawed. Maybe it just means that their real natures are masked or concealed. Of course, a lot of people have buried their true selves so Eff-ing deep they may never see the light of day. But here is the lesson: it will not make you happier or more successful to go through life with the attitude that the world (and the people in it) is broken or damaged. That will only make you cynical and complacent.

I also became an expert in all the ways that our true bodies – and our true natures – get buried and trapped in our muscles and organs. I learned the secrets of how chemical energy is created and used inside our bodies to power our movements, thoughts and emotions. And I learned how to use that knowledge to help heal others – to liberate the energies and synergies of their bodies, minds and passions. You will need this knowledge on your journey. You will find that for most people, a lot of our lifetime is spent recovering from the injuries and accidents of life – the wounds that afflict not only the body but the mind and heart – especially the heart. I believe that I learned my healing arts in order to teach you how to heal yourself whenever you might need it on your path – or to heal those you meet who become dear to you. And of course, the flip side of knowing how to heal is knowing how to prevent disruption (“coming apart”) in the first place.

From fitness healer to Life Coach was my next stage, although I’ve always preferred “life guide” to “life coach.” I discovered life coaching because I needed coaching myself. There was a time when I found my body, mind and heart – especially my heart – terribly wounded, and I went seeking a way to heal. Along the way, I discovered the most important secret to finding harmony: the way you live your life is a choice. Every moment of life is a crossroads – a chance to turn East or West, to select this action or that reaction. Most people don’t make choices, though. They don’t know how – no one has ever taught them. Instead they make decisions. Don’t worry if that’s confusing right now, my Loves, I will explain all of that as we go on. Suffice it to say that there is a scientific process to making choices instead of decisions. This process will be your compass on the journey. Use it to stay on your path.

Finally, the map of the journey was something I learned from stories. If you know me at all, you know how much I love stories, books and movies. My father used to tell me stories when I was little, just like I’ve told you almost every night since you were born – well, Harper at least. I’ve been in love with stories since then, and as a child I could always be found with my nose in a book. As an adult, I discovered a man who was one of the greatest story keepers of all time: Joseph Campbell. He wrote a book called, “The Hero’s Journey” – and it was his work that helped me understand the journey-like nature of person’s life. What Campbell did was collect and compare myths, legends, folk/fairy tales and literature from around the world. What he found was that they told the same story over and over again – the story of the journey of life; and the perils, lessons and rewards that come with that journey. Human beings have been dealing with the same issues since the beginning of time: how do I mend a broken heart? What is my purpose in being here? How do I bring a family back together? But what is so remarkable about Campbell’s work is that we find that each of these stories also provides an answer – a solution to a life problem. It’s as though all the fathers and mothers of the past were doing what I am doing – leaving “advice for living” for future generations. All we have to do is learn how to interpret those old clues.

One of the main things I learned by studying Campbell is that our journey through life is a voyage of “transformation” (something I promise I will explain later), and we make this journey not once but many times. Each time we complete our journey, we come back to the beginning again – back home, you might say. But not at exactly the same place, really. At the end of each voyage we are now on (hopefully) a new and “higher” level of wisdom and power than when we first went out. Thus the map of your journey is really a spiral. In the coming pages, I promise to show you the map, and all the stages that you will have to pass through to complete your mission. There is a wonderful poem by T.S. Eliot that goes like this: “We shall not cease from exploration / And the end of all our exploring / Will be to arrive where we started / And know the place for the first time.”

The map, the compass and the rules of the road – that’s what every traveller needs on a voyage into unknown territory. As I write this, the girls’ grandparents are preparing for a trip to Europe – and Grandpa wants to get a GPS device. Of course he does! When you’re in a strange city in the middle of France and you get lost – what do you wish you had? A map, right? And a compass too (or GPS) – so you can find your way back to the hotel! And wouldn’t it also be great to have a little guidebook so you would know what the local customs are? Otherwise, I guarantee that somebody is going to put their foot in it! Well, on the journey of life, being without a map and compass may mean you wander lost for years; and not understanding the “rules” (the principles of life and living) can break your body as well as your heart. I would spare you as much of that as I could, while still leaving you to travel your own path, and find your own destiny.

You should probably know (if you don’t know already) that I have shared much of this book with other people. When I made the choice to devote my life to the Invincible Living project – my legacy to you, my Dears – I also chose to do it by staying home and working on it full time. I became a full-time blogger, coach and seminar leader to support us – and Invincible Living is what I wrote and taught about. In fact, you should thank in your hearts the many people you will never meet who asked for my coaching – because they all contributed to the method by forcing me to craft the coaching that they needed. Though they were each on their own journey – and their journeys were different than yours will be – still, you never know what you might need someday. By the time you read this, I’ll have written hundreds of columns, penned other books and recorded many audios and video. It all goes into the archive, and is distilled in these pages.

But – and this is important – for each of you there will be messages that no one else will read. I am watching you grow, and I am so proud of all of you. I love each of you differently, for you are each unique beings. But I love each of you with ALL my heart! Never, never, never forget what I have taught you (so many times that you’re probably making a face right now) – that the human heart is bottomless, and there is room in mine for ALL of you – as their is room in yours for all the Dear Ones who await you on your own voyages to come.

Now… let’s get started.

Ever since my daughter was born, I cannot help imagining that the victims of any tragedy are my own children. I think about this just about every day when I listen to the news reports from Syria. My first reaction when I heard the news about the shooting in Colorado was to feel as if a giant fist had grabbed my heart and squeezed it. My throat dried up. In the same moment that I offered up thanks that it wasn’t my son or daughter wounded or killed in that movie theatre, I also cried out inside for the sons and daughters who were. I was angry and resentful. How could this happen? Who is to blame? Who can I punish?

But fixing blame and punishing the criminal (while necessary to maintain a safe society) will not change this essential principle: we cannot always control the events in our lives, no matter how hard we try. What I can control is this: this tragedy makes me stronger in my resolve to be more loving and compassionate. I resolve to teach my children that violence is a solution of last resort, and not to be revered. I resolve to let go of my ego when I disagree with my partner, because in the end my “being right” is a petty thing that I won’t even remember a year from now. I resolve that I will NOT let a day go by without letting the people most important in my life know how much I love them, and that I see that they are amazing

Because here’s the thing: while we can’t always predict or prevent tragedy from happening, a world in which more people are in touch with their Soul is a world in which this kind of tragedy is LESS likely to take place.

My prayers and tears go out to all those personally touched by this weekend’s terrible event. I hold to the possibility that this will NEVER happen again, to anyone.

Dear Jobless,
When you ask the question; “how do I start my job search when I don’t even know what I’m looking for?” I would answer, “you are looking for your bliss.” We’ve all heard the saying, “Do you what you love and the money will follow.” Another way of looking at this is that if you force yourself to work at a job that you don’t absolutely love - then you will start to cut off the flow of prosperity into your life.

Invincible Living looks at money, work and prosperity as a function of “Flow” – the experience of continuity, connectedness, ease and effortless action. Whatever stops flow stops money, and whatever promotes flow attracts money. What stops flow are things like rushing through life, tensing up (“holding on to stuff”), being out of alignment and being inconsistent (like applying for any job that opens up). On the other hand, what promotes flow are things like slowing down (and being in the moment), letting go of things (like old ways of thinking), making sure you are in alignment (with your principles and values), and being committed and consistent.

Following your bliss brings you into the flow of life. Most people treat the notion of following one’s bliss as a luxury that has to wait until after one has found a good job and is financially secure. But as a life coach I have seen time and again that the opposite is true. Your jobless situation is a blessing in disguise – it has given you the chance to discover (or return to) your passion. If you want to know where to start your job search, then start looking for the kind of job that would catapult you out of bed every morning, that you would leave home early to get to and that you would do for free if you couldn’t get paid for it. And if you can’t find a company that has a job like this, then start doing the “job” on your own and the company will find you.

Being out of work probably feels like a crisis. I know a lot of people in the same position – it is a sign of our economic times. The loss of a job or career is extremely stressful. According to many relationships experts, fighting about money is the leading cause of divorce. But as a life coach I always look for the silver lining. Remember – the Chinese character for “crisis” is drawn by combining the character for danger with the character for… opportunity!

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This is actually a Life Coaching question I get asked often. The short answer is, “Yes.” Even couples who seem to spend more time fighting than loving CAN learn to change this. People who live together develop patterns of communication – by which I mean unconscious triggers.  Sometimes even innocent comments, looks or actions can trigger a negative reaction. Little things that might otherwise be no more than an annoyance quickly escalate into another argument.

But these conflicts usually have little to do with whatever the fight is about. It has much more to do with the overall level of stress in their lives.  When a person feels stress, a whole cascade of reactions take place that create tension in the neck and shoulders, can cause upset stomach, make the heart to race and increase aggression. Every time this reaction is triggered, it gets more automatic and unconscious.  Now the reaction takes on a life of its own – because science tells us that “nerves that fire together, wire together.” So each time it happens, it gets set off more easily – it becomes a “hair trigger.” And now your nervous system cannot tell the difference between a mountain and a molehill, between an innocent question or a verbal attack.

The Invincible Living antidote is to retrain your reactions, to make the idea that “nerves that fire together wire together” work FOR you instead of against you. Step One is to choose a physical activity that requires cooperation – dancing works for many people, as does sailing or rowing. I often use the T’ai Chi game of Pushing Hands. But even hiking can be a productive alternative. As the intensity of the activity increases, it is almost certain that it will trip the triggers in one or both of the couple.

Step Two is to agree before hand on what reaction to practice as soon as they notice they are triggered. It’s like what your Grandmother always told you: “count to 10 before you say anything, Dear.” I’ve had clients who agree to force a laugh, take cleansing breaths for 30 seconds or offer three hail Mary’s – and I’ve had a number of clients who chose kissing as their escape valve! (And I say Bravo!) This interrupts the pattern of negative reactions, and introduces a new reaction – calming and peaceful rather than angry and stressful. Wouldn’t it be great if you and your partner’s automatic reaction to stress was to get calm, close ranks and cooperate?

Step Three is repetition. This isn’t something you can do one time – or ten times. Almost certainly the first few attempts at re-wiring your stress reactions will fail, and may even cause another fight. Walk away – and come back and do it again later. It takes time to create a new pattern, and then more time to make it automatic. The goal is to make this new pattern MORE automatic and unconscious than the habit of fighting – and that WILL happen with repetition and rehearsal. Think of it as an investment. But for two people who truly love each other, it’s worth it.

Be Careful What You Ask For

In my 30′s, while I was building the Honolulu T’ai Chi Academy, I began to have students come to me with questions I did not know how to answer. I often get asked about the physical aspects of T’ai Chi –  how do you do this or that movement?; What comes after this or that step?; What should I do about knee pain? – stuff like that. I always had a lot of great answers for those kinds of questions.

But these questions were different. These were questions about life issues – jobs, relationships, Spiritual doubt, etc. I found I did not really know how to answer their questions. Although I had been taught that T’ai Chi had a ancient philosophy suited even to modern problems, I realized that I had not been taught how to use it to solve the very real-life questions my students were asking. I knew that T’ai Chi had changed my life – made me physically stronger and healthier, calmer and more centered, and more confident about my path and my life. But I didn’t know how to explain or prescribe how to use T’ai Chi training to mend the mind and the heart. I knew the “What” but not the “Why?” or “How?”

Furthermore, I honestly could not relate to some of the issues brought to me by my students. I had always felt so lucky and blessed in my life. I remember saying to myself, “Maybe I should have a little more trouble in my life to I can relate better to my students’ problems.”

The Dark Decade

You know the old saying saying: “Be careful what you ask for, because you just might get it!” Well, that’s what happened to me. Almost immediately after I said that to myself, my life began to fall apart. I lost my business in Hawaii, and moved back to the mainland where for the next 10 years my life just went from bad to worse. I went from one unfulfilling job to another, seemingly unable to keep any savings and at one point got down to my last $100 and was only a week away from living in my car. My long-time girlfriend and I broke up and I started on a string of failed relationships – including a whirlwind marriage and divorce. My health declined, and I found myself seasonally in and out of the emergency room with pneumonia and other respiratory illnesses (very scary, since my grandfather had died of emphysema). In short, just about everything that could go wrong with a person’s life did go wrong. It was a looooong dark night of the Soul. Worst of all, I stopped playing T’ai Chi – the one constant anchor of my life.

The Birth of Invincible Living

About halfway through my “dark decade,” I began to try to pull my life together again. I started working with teachers, coaches and therapists to understand why my life seemed caught in the same repeating patterns. I immersed myself in seminars and read as much as I could about self-development and mind/body healing.

And I began to practice T’ai Chi again. As I took up this practice again, I began to understand how the ancient principles and philosophy were a key to unlocking the challenges of any age. The physical actions of T’ai Chi provide a window into the patterns of the heart, mind and Spirit. If you learn how to understand those patterns, you have a chance to do something about them – re-train them to your advantage. This, I learned, is a Universal Law: “You cannot transcend what you have not embraced, and you cannot embrace what you cannot see.”

I rediscovered the essential First Principle of T’ai Chi – that “Everything you do is either a step towards balance, or a step away from balance.” Life always worked better when I was in balance, and when I was out of harmony life began to fall apart. But still I knew there was more to the puzzle – a deeper layer to the lesson I was learning. Why did balance and harmony make such a difference?

The answer emerged like the dawning of the summer sun – only when you are in harmony can you unlock the door that leads to the deepest, truest and most inner Self – the part of us we call the Authentic Self or Soul. Our troubles in life do not come because there is something wrong with us or with the world around us. Our troubles come because we are disconnected from the Authentic Self.

When we find that inner self, we discover that in that place there is no fear. There is no weakness. There is no judgment or anger. There is no guilt, and there is no shame. Creating your life from that place is called “Invincible Living.”

The Method

So for the past 20 years or so, my driving question has been: “how do you re–connect to your Authentic Self?” There thousands of self-development and personal transformation methods out there – and while I haven’t tried them all… well, I have tried a lot of them! In the end what emerged was a framework that embraced the best and most effective of the Human Potential methods, framed and guided by my 35 years of T’ai Chi practice. I found that to help people get true breakthroughs – and then hold onto them! – you have to involve movement of the body as part of the coaching. Without that, all you have is “coaching from the neck up.” But when body and mind are coached together, you can open the doorway into your Authentic Self – into your Soul. And when body, mind and Soul come together – we are invincible!

Why is it vital to employ a personal trainer to accomplish the adaptation? Because the body resists adaptation. No matter how hard you try to lose weight, or gain muscle, or tone up the body is going to fight you back. The personal trainer knows how to overcome this resistance, better known as “homeostasis,” the body’s desire to remain the same, to fight back and resist. A trainers job is simple – apply the right stimulus to overcome homeostasis, and achieve the adaptation needed to help the client achieve their goals.

The same concept applies to personal development and spiritual growth. Coaching techniques are way of achieving a certain kind of adaptation. The framework in this realm is to achieve adaptation psychologically, emotionally, spiritually or energetically. In the body, homeostasis looks like unwanted weight gain that you can’t seem to lose, weakness, or muscle atrophy. In the mind and spirit, homeostasis looks like our unconscious behavior patterns that lead to imbalance and suffering – limiting beliefs, avoiding intimacy or responsibility, fear or low self-esteem.

You need a coach in the same way that you need a personal trainer – because your body mind resists adaptation and change, it wants to stay the way it is. In other words, we all have our own psycho-spiritual homeostasis that does not want to mature or change, addicted to patterns and habits that give us a sense of security even though it can also be a source of pain. A coach’s job is to design just the right kind of stimulus to overcome the psycho-spiritual homeostasis and create the “aha!” moments which lead to everlasting change.

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You see – it’s that simple.  I’m not even trying to tell you that being in balance is “better” than being out of balance.  That’s for every individual to determine for themselves. In fact, there are many situations in which being out of balance brings a good result.  But at the end of the day, the more you are in balance the better things seem to work – and if that is important to you, then you might want to choose balance over imbalance. Period. End of lesson.

So what is Balance? To avoid the trap of turning “Balance” into psycho-babble, we need to define it in quantifiable terms.  Think of Balance not as a state of being, but rather as an experience.  In other words, rather than “being balanced,” you would say you “experience balance.”  One main reason we make this distinction is that balance is dynamic, not static.  We’re always moving closer to or farther from complete balance in a never-ending dance.

In fact, there are three specific and quantifiable aspects of balance to be experienced.  These aspects are known as Power, Freedom and Flow.  The more you experience of each of these three aspects, the more in balance you are. If any of these three aspects begin to diminish, then you begin to fall out of balance, particularly in that aspect.  (You can read more about this in my book Power Freedom and Flow.)

What is needed is a map of this path, and a compass to direct you at life’s crossroads. Most of us also need a guide to lead us past the rockslides and crevasses of our addictions and unconscious bad habits, to point out the beautiful vistas we overlook — and of course to help us manage our baggage.

Invincible Living is your map to self-actualization and reconnection to the Soul.  It lays out a path through four distinct stages of discovery and transformation.  We call this map “The Spiral of Transformation,” because at the end of each of life’s many journeys we find ourselves back at the beginning again, only at a “higher” or more evolved level.

It takes a rare and gifted person to heal the wound of shame all by themselves, and in adulthood rediscover their authentic self.  Most of us only have moments of authenticity here and there, and dim memories of a glorious time untainted by the wound of shame and the disconnection from our Soul.  Indeed, we most often notice Soul in its absence.  ”We have come to know the soul only in its complaints,” writes Thomas Moore, “when it stirs, disturbed by neglect and abuse, and causes us to feel pain.”

On the other hand, there are people I’ve met (or read about) who fully embrace the idea that life is their journey of destiny.  These people fully engage their whole selves, full-time in seeking their destiny from life experiences, ancient writings and from live teachers.  They devote their whole lives to it. But how many people are truly, authentically like this?  Few.  Maybe only 2% of the whole world.

The rest of the people in the world are those who appreciate that life is some kind of journey or process, but aren’t ready to devote their full time to it. For them, the Spiritual journey must fit in with the rest of day-to-day life – work, family, health, etc. Let’s say at least half of these folks are determined to navigate this voyage all on their own-and they do this by trying to make “good” or “informed” or “educated” decisions. Which leaves a whole lot of people – like you, dear reader, who are looking for road map or guide to this process.

Invincible Living is a method designed to guide people like you on the journey of personal discovery and growth, and to ultimately find that re-connection with the Authentic Self is a choice.  The problem is that the more disconnected (detached, hidden, forgotten, denied) the Authentic Self is the more a person is habituated (addicted) to making decisions – in other words the desire itself prevents one from taking the cure.